More Brilliance from Trisha Sugarek
I sit in my cabin in the woods as I write my message to the world. With only five hundred words to use, I am inspired to send my message to young women. Growing up in traditionalism as I did, I found my freedom and voice later in life. I discovered that I could be so much more than a wife or mother. I COULD BE ANYTHING I WANTED TO BE. An old refrain certainly, but it's old because it's TRUE. Don't do it someday, DO IT TODAY! I started out standing in the second-hand light of a man. [Traditional, remember?] I…
Today’s Brilliance from Trisha Sugarek
Growing up in traditionalism as I did, I found my freedom and voice later in life. I discovered that I could be so much more than a wife or mother. I could be anything I wanted to be. An old refrain certainly, but it's old because it's TRUE. Don't do it someday, DO IT TODAY! I began my adult life standing in the secondhand light of a man. (Traditional, remember?) Years later, I figured out that I couldn't change, fix, repair or control another human being, as hard as I might try. I learned that the only person I could…
Surrender Equals Peace
The other night I had such a moment of clarity and sense of surrender that it took my breath away. I was listening to a track from West Side Story, "Somewhere" (Music by Leonard Bernstein, lyrics by Stephen Sondheim). Here are a few lyrics: There's a time for us, Some day a time for us, Time together with time spare, Time to learn, time to care, Some day! Somewhere. We'll find a new way of living, We'll find a way of forgiving Somewhere . . . As I listened to the lyric: ‘we’ll find a way of forgiving’, my epiphany…
Rescue Yourself!
Life's a bumpy road; we can all agree on that. You're not going to avoid it. Stuff just happens. The trick is to avoid falling into the ten foot holes. Chances are, no one will be there with an eleven foot ladder to help you out. What I mean is don’t walk around with the expectation that someone else is going to rescue you, fix it for you, or bail you out. This message is especially aimed at young women. Someone may have taught you that having a man in your life will ‘fix everything’. That a man will take…
Under Construction: The Sign I Wear Mentally !
A famous psychologist (his first name is Phil) talks about the fact that we all have pivotal points in our lives; crossroads, if you will, where we can turn down a path of self-pity, victimism, feeling anger at the world and an urge to 'give up'. Or turning the other way and seeking empowerment, happiness, and a full life. In August of 2006, I experienced a harsh, heartbreaking pivotal point in my life when my husband of thirty years died suddenly. He took his own life. Sure, I knew he was going through some kind of mid-life crisis or other.…
Overpower the past… Empower the Present!
I was the baby in the family, born 11 and 8 years, respectively, after my siblings. Not until just a few years ago did I hear that my mother "farmed out" my sister and brother to strangers. The term usually referred to children who were sent to a relative back in the day, but in my siblings' case it was an indenture. My brother and sister had to work for their keep, ages six and 11. They told me these stories as part of my research while writing Wild Violets, a romanticized version of my Mother as a flapper and entrepreneur in the 1920's in…
Growth through Writing… Empower Yourself!
Since man formed his first vocabulary, family and tribal news was carried from tribe to tribe, village to village by a storyteller. They would be welcomed in each cave, hut, or council house as an honored guest and nights would be spent around the fire listening to the latest news from family members living afar. Famine, a good harvest, movement of wild herds, warring tribes, births, deaths, alliances, all were carried by the professional storyteller. After a few days passed the news had been told and the storyteller, rested and refreshed, would move to the next tribe or settlement. While…
Do You Doubt Yourself? Life Lessons from Great Authors
I ran across a description of one of my enemies... DOUBT! Author Jacqueline Winspear wrote: "Doubt. Was it an emotion? A sense? Or was it just a short stubby word to describe a response that could diminish a person in a finger snap?" And while I most times write my blog and how it relates to the art of writing, I had a thought. THIS COULD APPLY TO LIFE [AND HOW WE LIVE IT] AS WELL! I've written before about my being in good company. Regardless of whether we writers are obscure or famous, we all doubt ourselves and our work. What if Henry Charles…
Growing through Writing
By Trisha Sugarek. Last year I updated my website and discovered blogging. Now, you may ask, what has that to do with self-growth, self-love, or well being?? Writing a blog about what I love most in my life: writing. In doing so I have grown as a writer and as a person seeking self truth. In some strange way (and even though I am writing fiction), my writing keeps me honest... about life and about myself. I believe that if just one person starts writing, because of my blog, I have succeeded. I will probably never know if anyone was…